Today's Sports Coaches: an Open Letter

I read with interest the story about the Girls High School basketball coach - Micah Grimes - who "cheered wildly" as his team closed in on 100 points (while holding their opponents to 0). He further pressed his players even into the fourth quarter.

I am not going to assassinate Grimes' character as that is not fair I do not know him. However, all around me I see him. His actions mimic coaches I see everyday at all levels of recreational and club sports teams. For some reason the mentality that the New England Patriots ran by in 2007 - which is fine in the NFL - has filtered down to grade school level sports.

Case in point. My son plays indoor soccer. Recently we moved from one facility to another. At the previous facility, teams were generally juggled and evenly matched. At the new facility there appear to be 7 year old club teams. Nick, not being on a club team because I don't deem it necessary at 6 to be that devoted to any one sport, got put on a team with some new and some mildly experienced players. This would be fine except for the fact that they're playing against teams that have been together since they were 4 and have excellent soccer skills for 7 year olds.

I am happy for the challenge posed by this. You always learn more playing against more talented players than less talented. What makes me sick is the way the coaches have allowed their players to play against Nick's team. Most of the time they spend pressing. Even in the fourth quarter after the team has scored 30+ goals in a 30 minute game, they are still pressing their offense and cheering on the goals.

Give me a break.

This past week I got the joy of listening to a parent run down the number of goals each player scored. Oh and "that one girl even scored a goal!". Yay. So not only does the coach condone it, the parents love it too. Well, congratulations. Your team is capable of beating a completely over matched team by 35 goals. I hope you're happy about that.

If I was a parent of a child on that team he'd have been off the team before the game was over. I would be thoroughly embarrassed by the boorish behavior of the coach, and not ever want Nick to be involved with such poor sportsmanship again.

So all you Micah Grimes and those of you defending him, you can have your lopsided wins. And you can speak all you want about how you did nothing wrong and you can continue to believe that mercilessly pounding an over matched opponent is "[playing] with honor and integrity and [showing] respect" for your opponents. Yep, go on ahead believing that. Hopefully it comforts you and helps inflate your tiny ego. Because clearly you need something that your life is not currently providing.

Teens and technology

OK, so I ran across the following website:

http://www.thenationalcampaign.org/sextech/

that has a study of people ages 13-26. It made all sorts of fascinating findings about how many of these people had posted or IMed nude images (or sexually suggestive text) of themselves to others.

I'm not going to claim that it doesn't happen but I'm going to explain my own personal experience with these surveys.

I filled out all sorts of surveys in middle school and high school. I would claim all sorts of crazy crap about myself. I did drugs daily (never touched them). I would drink and drive (didn't drink). I had sex with a different person at least once a week (I was a virgin). Etc, etc. None of it was true, I just thought it was funny.

Looking back I probably should have been honest. But really who cares?

So how many of these kids are being honest? Doesn't really matter. Just make sure you teach your kids about the perils of doing stupid stuff and hope they listen to you. It's the best you can do.